There are many changes that take place between the couple after childbearing. After the couple lived life to their full potential, they enjoy going to the cinema or theater or playing their common hobbies or traveling to new places to discover their lives become focused on children and work, Their lives, and they are in a closed circle they can not get out of, and it is only limited to talk for a few periods about family affairs or visiting relatives.
No one denies that procreation is the greatest yes of life, which can not be compensated by anything else, but just as paternity changes in individual personalities, it also changes the relationship between couples and leaves a clear impact on them. The nature of life changes in general and the interests and priorities of the couple change in particular .
1. Negotiation
At the beginning of the marriage stage, couples often agree or share important and simple decisions, such as choosing a summer vacation spot, a mother's day gift or changing a car. Even if one is not convinced, the other tries to please and talk to him until reaching the desired decision in it.
After giving birth and passing through many years, the couple loses the ability to negotiate and differ in most things, even the simplest. For example, planning a weekend is difficult, they never agree, he wants something and wants something else, and the children want something else.
2. Leisure times
Always, the couple starts their lives, each trying to satisfy the other and making a lot of effort to make him happy. For example, most of the newlyweds spend the day sleeping until noon, then eat food, watch television, and spend the evening at home or outside.
In times of entertainment, they always try to find something new, like going to a party or going out with friends. Usually these friends are also without children, because those with children do not have the right time to go out and it is difficult to coordinate with them to meet them.
After childbearing, it's time to spend time enjoying friends' birthday parties, performing a children's school activity or watching a cartoon movie with them. These are fun when the family meets them, but often the mother is the co-parent. He chooses other means, away from the family atmosphere to enjoy the leisure time.
3. Dialogue and discussion
At the beginning of the marriage, the couple enjoys talking to each other, discussing many things and talking about everything from political discussions to commenting on the latest popular songs, discussing work and home problems as well.
But after childbearing, it may reach the lack of dialogue from the basis of only some of the conversations about the requirements of children and the home or complain wife to the husband not to examine their son well or cross the husband angrily not to feel the cleanliness of the house and so on.
4. Romance
One of the most important aspects of a marriage is maintaining the romantic relationship between the couple. The romantic relationship and the emotional moments soon end. At the beginning of the marriage, romance is at its peak. They prefer to spend time together in a romantic dinner in a restaurant or night On candle lights.
As the years go by, there are few emotional moments that make romance, such as momentary handshake when watching a movie, before children cry for their desire to go to the bathroom, take one of their favorite dishes together, or steal an hour to become alone after a child's sleep .
5. Love
In the past, the wife loved her husband, but now she loves the father of her children, who is involved in this adventure called "parenting". She has become loving him differently when she sees him. Their children, play with them, care about their affairs, and work hard to provide them with good living.
This is not the worst, since the basis of married life is understanding, affection, participation and respect. The couple must try to preserve these principles, So that their marital relationship remains good and continuous and does not turn into an undesirable path.
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